I have made progress and still have wonderings or what to call it. haha...
I have changed stuff I did not like about the Goblin. I bought the MKS X8 servo, pushes almost 12kg but makes no sense when the stock pushrod flexes at 3kg!
So I upgraded to a wowen 6mm pushrod that can do more then my thumb was capable of.... 16.5kg was my hands limit. Removal of the support in the mid of the boom too. NO friction!
I also eliminated slop by getting the helioption tail slider. The stock solution is really not good and the lynx upgrade is not much better in my mind.
this made it much better over all getting the tail to work with a combo of parameters, governor(which did not seem to be the key) and revo mixing.
I now made a stretch kit for it and fitted larger blades, VTX 557. Now turning at even lower RPM I did stall the tail at 2100rpm. I could clearly hear the tail stall and see the heli twist. that is fine as I know the cause of the twist. At 2350rpm the tail worked better, so I geared the tail even more with 17T pinion. Now it eorks "good" at 2100rpm too. I just switched to NHP 95mm tail blades which were cut to 80mm. These provide more surface and a much thicker profile. I will not have to re do much of my tail tuning.
I find the solution to be one part mechanical slop, one part the tail might not be strong enough at lower RPM on the goblin 500 and one part the spirit reacts too little to motion.
The spirit could be faster to punch when the heli starts to spin, no matter which parameter I tune I can not find this snappiness I search. like in PID regulator I don't find a true P, a true I or a true D.
Spirit seems harder to tune the tail then other gyros I have tried before. It holds super but the ass-wiggle at pitch pump is really a pain to get around.